Ep. 58 From Gray Area Drinker to Sober Dad: Todd Kinney's Powerful Story

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One Dad's Journey to Sobriety and Inner Peace

In the latest episode of the Feel Lit Alcohol Free podcast, hosts Ruby and Susan engage in a heartfelt conversation with Todd Kinney, a talented attorney and acclaimed author. Todd's journey from being a "classic gray area drinker" to embracing an alcohol-free life is a powerful story of transformation. In this blog post, we'll delve into the key topics discussed during the episode, including Todd's life before sobriety, the turning points, the impact on his family, professional life, and the unexpected joys he discovered along the way.

Life Before Sobriety: The Struggle of a "Gray Area Drinker"

Todd Kinney refers to himself as a "classic gray area drinker." His drinking habits mirrored those of many professionals, with most of his consumption occurring on weekends. He describes how his drinking, although not outwardly destructive, was fraught with internal conflict. Todd often found himself as the drunkest person in the room, battling shame, embarrassment, and regret the morning after.

He recounts the internal turmoil of continually failing to control his drinking. Todd's life revolved around planning his next drinking session, a constant cycle of anticipation, consumption, and recovery. This lifestyle took a significant toll on his mental and emotional well-being, leaving him feeling trapped in a never-ending loop.

The Turning Point: From Inner Conflict to Resolution

For Todd, the gradual realization of his children's awareness of his drinking habits was a catalyst for change. He recalls the deep concern he felt knowing that his oldest children, then entering their teenage years, could recognize when he or other adults were drunk. This awareness ignited a slow yet determined evaluation process of his drinking habits, spanning several years.

Todd explains that while there wasn't a single spectacular rock-bottom moment, various nudges and realizations, particularly about the example he was setting for his children, led him to quit drinking in February 2019. This decision marked the beginning of a journey towards a healthier and more fulfilling life.

Embracing Sobriety: The Impact on Family and Relationships

One of the most profound changes Todd experienced after quitting alcohol was in his relationship with his children. He emphasizes how sobriety has brought a sense of peace and patience into his life, allowing him to navigate the challenges of parenting teenagers with greater ease. The absence of alcohol has made him less reactive, fostering a more harmonious home environment.

Todd's reflection on wishing he had quit drinking when his children were toddlers highlights the significant positive impact of sobriety on parenting. He expresses a deep sense of gratitude for the improved relationships and increased presence he now enjoys with his family.

Professional Life: Thriving Without Alcohol

In the legal profession, known for its high stress and often boozy culture, Todd initially feared that sobriety might hinder his career. However, he discovered quite the opposite. His first two years of sobriety turned out to be the most successful years of his professional life. The clarity, focus, and energy gained from not drinking significantly enhanced his job performance.

Todd's openness about his journey within his workplace also led to unexpected support and connections. He became an advocate for wellness, participating in panel discussions on substance abuse and inspiring colleagues to reconsider their own relationship with alcohol.

Discovering Unexpected Joys: Sunrises and Gratitude

One of the most surprising and delightful aspects of Todd's alcohol-free life has been his newfound appreciation for sunrises. He describes an almost religious experience watching a sunrise in Lake Tahoe, a moment that brought profound gratitude and a sense of connection to the world around him.

In addition to the physical benefits of sobriety like better sleep and increased productivity, Todd also highlights the unending stream of gratitude he feels daily. This perpetual sense of thankfulness for the decision to quit drinking is a constant reminder of the positive changes in his life.

Conclusion

Todd Kinney's journey from a conflicted drinker to a grateful, alcohol-free advocate serves as an inspiring testament to the transformative power of sobriety. His story underscores the benefits of an alcohol-free life, from improved relationships and professional success to unexpected joys and inner peace. For those considering a similar path, Todd's insights offer valuable encouragement and motivation to embrace a life filled with gratitude and fulfillment without alcohol.

If you're interested in learning more about Todd Kinney's journey, you can find his memoir, "I Didn't Believe It Either: One Dad's Discovery That Everything is Better Without Alcohol," on Amazon. Connect with Todd on Instagram [@tkenney111](https://www.instagram.com/tkenney111) and visit his website [toddkinney.com](http://toddkinney.com) for more information.

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