Ep. 45 Breaking Free: Overcoming the Obsession With Alcohol

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Feel Lit Alcohol Free: Overcoming the Obsession with Alcohol

In the latest episode of the "Feel Lit Alcohol Free Podcast," hosts Ruby Williams and Susan Larkin delve deep into the intricate web of alcohol dependency, sharing their personal battles and coaching advice to guide listeners towards an alcohol-free existence. Episode 45, titled "Breaking Free: Overcoming the Obsession With Alcohol," offers an intimate look at overcoming the persistent thoughts and feelings associated with alcohol, touching on themes of self-compassion, curiosity, and lasting change.

A Personal Struggle Unveiled

Ruby opens up about her own battles with alcohol. Despite setting limits like having just two drinks at social events, she found herself plunged into an obsessive craving for more. As she recounts, these boundaries often led to relapses, characterized by feelings of shame and frustration. Ruby bravely shares how informing her sponsor about these lapses initially filled her with guilt until she discovered a more compassionate approach.

The "Asleep to Alive" Framework

Ruby and Susan, both trained under the *This Naked Mind* program, offer a transformative framework they refer to as the journey from being "asleep" to being "alive." This journey signifies moving from a state of unawareness to being fully conscious and in control of one's relationship with alcohol. On average, people linger in the "aware" stage—where they recognize their problem but struggle to solve it—for approximately seven years.

Motivated by Annie Grace’s Vision

Ruby attributes a significant part of her journey to sobriety to Annie Grace’s inspiring webinars. Utilizing the *This Naked Mind* methodology, Ruby moved from simply being aware of her issues to feeling alive and free from the obsession with alcohol. This aligns seamlessly with the podcast’s goal: to aid listeners in "feeling lit," or alive, without the crutch of alcohol.

The Hidden Beliefs Holding Us Captive

One of the most eye-opening discussions revolves around the subconscious beliefs that fuel alcohol dependency. Ruby and Susan emphasize how societal norms—like the glamorization of drinking for relaxation or enjoyment—embed themselves in our psyche. Often, individuals turn to alcohol to fulfill deeper needs or escape from trauma, thereby creating patterns that are challenging to break.

Data Points: The Clues to Lasting Change

The hosts introduce the concept of "data points"—unintended drinking events—which hint at remaining hidden beliefs about alcohol. Rather than seeing these moments as failures, Ruby and Susan advocate approaching them with curiosity and self-compassion. This shift in perspective fosters a constructive mindset crucial for personal growth. Data points act as valuable insights into why one drinks, offering opportunities for deeper introspection and change.

Ruby’s Journey through AA

Ruby’s narrative comes full circle as she shares her experience with Alcoholics Anonymous (AA). After seeking assistance during 2017-2019, a relapse during the traumatic fires in Sonoma County made her painfully aware of the inflexibility of willpower alone. However, it was through This Naked Mind’s compassionate approach that Ruby learned not to let this relapse define her sobriety journey, viewing it instead as a learning experience.

Tools and Mindsets for Sobriety

One of the practical tools introduced in the podcast is the 5-4-3-2-1 grounding exercise, shared by Coach Ruby. This mindfulness technique helps anchor individuals in the present moment by focusing on sensory awareness:
- **5 Things You See**
- **4 Things You Touch**
- **3 Things You Hear**
- **2 Things You Smell**
- **1 Thing You Taste**

Ruby recommends using this technique any time one feels anxiety or the urge to drink, even during day-to-day activities like commuting or working.

Embracing Self-Compassion and Curiosity

Central to the hosts’ message is the idea of approaching one’s journey with kindness. They stress the importance of viewing thoughts and feelings as temporary and normal, rather than labeling them as obsessions. By treating these experiences as data points, individuals can uncover underlying beliefs, such as issues with self-worth, and work towards healthier coping mechanisms.

Emotion-Based Goals and Affirmations

The discussion also touches on setting emotion-based goals, focusing on how one wants to feel rather than just eliminating alcohol. Positive reinforcement through self-affirmation plays an essential role in this transformation. Both Ruby and Susan share how looking oneself in the mirror with encouraging affirmations and creating new thought patterns can rewire the brain, leading to lasting change.

Building a Supportive Community

Join the Conversation

The hosts encourage listeners to join their supportive Facebook group, where members share resources and experiences related to sobriety. Additionally, listeners are invited to engage with the show by leaving ratings, reviews, and questions on Apple Podcasts.

Upcoming Episodes and Resources

Future episodes will cover more themes relevant to the holiday season, featuring surprise guests to help you navigate through festive challenges without alcohol. The hosts also promote their resource, "A Wine Free Weekend," available on their website.

Conclusion: Take the First Step

In closing, Ruby and Susan remind listeners that embarking on an alcohol-free lifestyle is a journey worth taking. By leveraging self-compassion, curiosity, and practical tools, individuals can achieve the ultimate goal: feeling truly alive and "lit" without alcohol.

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