Ep. 36 The Moderation Myth: Finding Freedom (Part 1)

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Part 1: Moderation and the Journey to an Alcohol-Free Lifestyle

In Episode 36 of the "Feel Lit Alcohol Free Podcast," hosts Ruby Williams and Susan Larkin, both former lovers turned alcohol freedom coaches, tackle the multifaceted concept of moderation. The conversation delves into personal anecdotes, mindset shifts, and the overarching goal of achieving a fulfilling, alcohol-free life. This episode offers valuable insights for those struggling to return to "normal" drinking and provides actionable advice for embracing an alcohol-free lifestyle.

The Personal Struggle with Moderation

Ruby kicks off the episode by sharing her seven-year-long journey towards "normal" drinking. Her story encapsulates the challenges of attempting to reset and moderate her alcohol consumption. Despite numerous attempts, the endeavor proved futile, highlighting the complexity of moderation for individuals using alcohol as a coping mechanism.

Susan echoes Ruby's sentiments, sharing her experience of trying to return to "normal" drinking even after 30-day periods of abstinence. She emphasizes the continuous battle of trying to fit into societal norms while grappling with the urge to self-medicate. Both hosts agree that moderation is not a one-size-fits-all solution and often becomes a barrier to achieving true alcohol freedom.

The Importance of Mindset and Neural Pathways

A significant theme throughout the episode is the role of mindset in achieving alcohol freedom. Ruby and Susan explore the concept of rewiring neural pathways—the brain's roads that need positive reinforcement for long-term change. Susan shares her perspective on the infamous cucumber-pickle analogy, illustrating the difficulty of reversing neural pathways affected by alcohol. Once a cucumber turns into a pickle, it can't go back; likewise, rewiring the brain requires consistent effort and dedication.

Susan further elaborates on the necessity of feeding new neural pathways with positive experiences and coping mechanisms. She likens the process to building and reinforcing new roads, ensuring they can withstand the test of time and old habits.

Letting Go of the Myth of "Normal" Drinking

The societal definition of "normal" drinking often complicates the journey towards moderation. Both Ruby and Susan challenge this notion, encouraging listeners to redefine what "normal" means for them. Susan's realization that she was not "normal" and that holding onto the hope of moderation hindered her progress serves as a powerful reminder that individual experiences with alcohol vary.

Ruby supports this perspective, emphasizing the importance of valuing well-being over the societal pressure to drink. She underscores the significance of experience and experimentation, encouraging listeners to discover what works best for them on their personal journey towards an alcohol-free life.

Practical Advice for Clients and Listeners

Ruby and Susan offer valuable advice for those seeking an alcohol-free lifestyle. They discuss the importance of setting specific moderation goals, establishing non=negotiables, and embracing a mindset shift. Ruby suggests that after maintaining an alcohol-free lifestyle for a period, individuals may need to reevaluate their moderation goals based on belief work and personal growth.

Susan reflects on her decision to put aside the goal of moderation, sharing how this shift greatly impacted her progress. The hosts emphasize the significance of trying different coping mechanisms, embracing experimentation, and seeking support and coaching when ready to commit to an alcohol-free life.

Visualizing Your Perfect Day Alcohol-Free

Towards the end of the episode, Susan and Ruby introduce techniques for feeling "lit" without alcohol. They encourage listeners to visualize their perfect day, filled with activities and experiences that bring joy and fulfillment. This exercise reinforces the hosts' belief that an alcohol-free life can be rich, satisfying, and vibrant.

Concluding Thoughts

In Episode 36 of the "Feel Lit Alcohol Free Podcast" is a heartfelt exploration of the struggles, mindset shifts, and practical steps involved in moving towards an alcohol-free lifestyle. Ruby and Susan's candid discussions provide a roadmap for listeners grappling with moderation and seeking to redefine their relationship with alcohol. By embracing experimentation, reinforcing new neural pathways, and focusing on individual well-being, the journey towards alcohol freedom becomes not only attainable but profoundly rewarding.

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